Perception = Reality

Choose your thoughts wisely. I recently read Timothy D. Wilson’s book, Redirect: Changing the Stories We Live By. In it, Wilson explores the importance of redirecting negative ‘stories’ we tell ourselves about our lives, in order to motivate us to change for the better, rather than simply becoming discouraged by setbacks in life. To illustrate how this … More Perception = Reality

Don’t Give Up

I sat with a friend last night whom I hadn’t seen in months, catching up on what has been ‘a tsunami of awful’ for her. Her husband’s got colon cancer that’s spread to his liver. She’s got several other relatives in deep trouble in terms of physical health (dementia, cancer, autoimmune disorders). As a teacher, … More Don’t Give Up

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

I realize that the most fool moments of my life have been the richest ones. Had I not been a fool, I never would have let myself love M. Had I been able to buy a clue, I would have kicked my high school sweetheart to the curb when I was 20. Had I not had a soft spot for wounded pups, I would have dumped several other exes at the roadside long before I did. However, the fact of the matter is, my foolish heart took risks. It took me to Europe to meet Elton John (which I did), to New York to write songs, to LA to write stories, and to Phoenix to find my calling as a writer and teacher. My capacity to be a fool led to most of the important discoveries I made about myself and my inner life. Had I played it safe, languishing in my hometown in some dead end office job, most of the person I am would fall in the ‘might have been’ column.

And that would have been a shame. … More Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

A Pearl Beyond Price

In Memory of June White, 1931 – 2015. Reason to believe. There’s a reason. There’s always a reason for everything we experience. We may not like the reason. We may rail against it. We may gnash our teeth and weep over it, but there’s always something to learn, something to uncover, something to unearth, no matter … More A Pearl Beyond Price

Living in a Wild Age

Shot through the heart. This has been a tough month in a tough year. I feel like curling up in a fetal position and wailing like a baby. Difficult, demoralizing events at work. Cancer. Death. My uncle died. My cat, Ed, is dying. I’m acting as a sounding board to both my closest friends while … More Living in a Wild Age

Stormy Weather

Storm clouds gather… November’s rolled in with its cooler nights and damp mornings. I find myself wanting to go to bed and sleep for days; I am so bone weary. The dark night. The fertile night. The howling soul. My longing for hibernation has begun. It’s Sunday, a day of [supposed] rest. I long to settle into the quiet, reading … More Stormy Weather

I Guess That’s Why They Call It The Blues

 For Robin Williams. “The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself … More I Guess That’s Why They Call It The Blues