Becoming Bulletproof


I am enough.

I watched one of Marissa Peer’s A-Fest talks on YouTube this week where she talked extensively about the feeling that somehow, just as we are, we are not enough.

We’re not enough to be loved. We’re not enough to deserve a good life. We’re not enough to live well. We are, quite simply, inherently flawed and imperfect and not enough.

And I related to her words more than I can say.

I’ve believed this lie for most of my nearly six decades on this planet.

I‘ve believed I am not enough.

But here’s the thing: it’s not true.

It’s a lie. It’s a fabrication. It’s a fallacy. It’s a big hoax.

It’s propaganda of the worst sort.

We are enough. We always were. We always will be.

There is nothing about us that we need to change to be ‘enough.’ We were born with that enoughness.

It is our core reality.

In Buddhism, we call it our ‘Buddha nature.’

It is our essential self. We have always possessed it.

It may be covered in shite, but it is there. We simply need to put the hose on it and wash it up and it will gleam like the jewel it is.

So, how do we forget this truth? How do we get so lost that we begin to believe that there is something wrong with us? That we don’t have what it takes?

Where did we make a wrong turn and take the low road that led us to this field of not enoughness?

How did we learn to not love ourselves just as we are?

And more importantly, how can we unlearn it?

Peer suggests that we simply have to repeat the mantra, “I am enough,” and it will begin to shift. She advises writing those words on your bathroom mirror, putting them on your phone as a daily alert, repeating them to yourself throughout the day.

But what if we are unconsciously reinforcing those feelings of unworthiness?

What can we do then?

I am currently taking a course called Next Level Love with Daniel Packard whom I met recently in Barcelona. For the next eight weeks, I will be unpacking the cellar of my life and finding the roots of this feeling of never being enough.

His course provides tools to help you discover what is tripping you up and what is keeping you, as Marissa Peer puts it, from a totally “bulletproof life.”

This week we start our journey into seeing and unraveling these unconscious thought patterns.

Like Peer (and Packard) I believe this malaise of not enoughness is what is plaguing and ruining our world. If each person believed they possessed a ‘Buddha nature’, a clear jewel of worthiness that can never be taken or destroyed, how would that change the world?

It could shift the world’s consciousness overnight.

If we are enough, we don’t need to overeat or over-consume. We don’t need to shop to fill our emptiness or starve ourselves to a perfect body weight. We don’t need to fill our lives with busyness or compare ourselves to others. We wouldn’t compete. We would share and collaborate.

We would see each other as the divine beings we are. We wouldn’t need to hide or isolate. We could love each other – flawed and imperfect – as we are.

So, let’s try an experiment.

Write, “I am enough,” on your bathroom mirror.  Take Marissa Peer’s advice and put it on your phone as a daily (morning and evening) alert.

Tattoo it on your arm (if you need that much reminding).

Let’s do this. Let’s try talking to ourselves as though we are luminous, wonder-filled children who are divine and open and essentially good.

Let’s live with our hearts open.

Let’s see what changes.


Everyone has a book inside of them. Everyone has a story. Wouldn’t you love to share yours with the world? Get your free writer’s toolkit, packed with tricks and tips to get you started. Just do it. Don’t wait. Don’t die with an untold story inside you.

© 2017  Shavawn M. Berry All rights reserved

Feel free to share this post with others, as long as you include the copyright information and keep the whole posting intact. If you like this piece please share it with others. You can like me on Facebook or Twitter to see more of my writing and my spiritual journey on my website at

7 thoughts on “Becoming Bulletproof

  1. When you become your self, and stop trying to be other, the realization of enoughness dawns. I wish you always, enough.

  2. shavawn, this is beautiful. and so spot on. i didn’t have the pleasure of meeting you in barcelona, however, i’m glad to be ‘connected,’ via daniel’s course, albeit somewhat loosely. thank you for sharing your beautiful self with the world. thank you for letting us see you. you are enough. you have always been enough. and, you always will be enough. wishing you peace, love, and light as you continue on your path.

    1. thank you, dear. thank you for your kind-heart and yes, i wish we’d met in barcelona! I felt so ‘fish out of water’ there for the first third of the time. I kept hiding. finally i came out and began to meet such beautiful souls. we will likely learn more about each others’ journeys in daniel’s course. looking forward to it.

Leave a Reply